Guest Posts

On Wednesday, we will feature articles from some of the most inspiring personalities in various creative fields. Watch out for excellent posts by leaders in photography, business and social media marketing.


Finding Inspiration When You’ve Hit a Wall

Wed 11.02.2011

I’ve had the honor of talking shop with Nicole Young before, most recently during our Google+ hangout, and one thing is always clear: Nicole loves what she does. You may regularly see her stunning work on iStockphoto – the Photoshop expert is also a leading food photographer and blogger, whose latest book, Food Photography: From Snapshots to Great Shots is not only an excellent visual tutorial, but also a treat for the foodie eye. In this post, Nicole takes us behind the scenes to her new loft to shoot a tasty stir fry. Learn a few pro tips for turning a delicious meal into a tantalizing photograph, and try to get too hungry while you read!

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Post + Photos by Nicole S. Young.

I enjoy photographing food, mostly because I love food, cooking, and shopping for kitchen and dining accessories. The great thing about food is that I’ll never, ever run out of dishes to photograph, but sometimes I just lose my excitement about creating food photos. Maybe I get lazy, or I’m just overworked and can’t focus long enough on a solid idea to really wrap my brain around it. I’ll hit a wall, a “mini” wall, but I feel creatively drained and lose my motivation. It happens to all of us, but all it takes is a little motivation to boost that excitement and feel the need to create again.I’ve found myself at this mini-wall for the past month, and I needed some inspiration.

Nicole Young, Food photography, Tutorial
The other day I was out shopping at Crate and Barrel and found some accessories that were just gorgeous, yet very simple, yet also very elegant and perfect props for a photograph. Then I started to think about those soba noodles that were sitting in my cupboard, and the pieces started to fall into place. The next day I walked out to the market to pick up fresh veggies and seafood (another way I get inspired to photograph food), came home and cooked up a meal. It was perfect, and exactly what I was hoping for. I just needed a small dose of inspiration to get me back on track.To create this photograph I first set the stage with the dishes and props. I always set up the camera, dishes and lights, and also get my exposure in-camera before cooking the food. Food spoils and wilts quickly, so my goal is to always get the area prepped so that when the food is ready it is ready to be photographed immediately.

Next, I start cooking the food. All of the food I prepared for this meal is edible, but I do cook it a little differently when I know it will be photographed. For example, I blanched the green veggies before adding them to the stir-fry so they would be much brighter in color, and I set the noodles aside in a small amount of oil to keep them shiny and prevent them from sticking together.

Nicole Young, Food photography, TutorialOnce the food was all cooked and ready to go I added it to the bowl and did a tiny bit of styling to make it look presentable. To ensure that the noodles wouldn’t sink too low in the bowl and look flat, I added a small upside-down bowl that would help bulk up the pasta. Next I placed the noodles in the bowl, used my fingers to help curl them and move them around, and then I added some of the other ingredients and placed them throughout the dish so that they were spaced evenly. Lastly, I put a beautiful juicy prawn on top to finish it off.

To light the dish, I used back-light (I have very large Northeast facing windows in my loft) and filled them with white foam board. I also softened the window-light a bit with a diffuser, and used a piece of black foam board directly behind the setup to cut down on reflections. Just before pressing the shutter I also added some fill-light to the front of the food to add a little bit more light and color to the photograph.

Creating Value in Travel Photography

Wed 10.12.2011

He’s traveled to every corner of the globe – 100 countries and 40 years later, David Sanger will still spend days, driven by a passion to capture a fresh image of Prague or the Parthenon. An avid travel and adventure photographer myself, I’m inspired by David’s well-acclaimed ability to discover new beauty in the places shot ad nauseum at every angle by anyone with a camera. In a recent guest post on this blog, esteemed rebel Zack Arias waxed lyrical about the common complaint about there being too many photographers today. David shares tips on how you can stand out from the crowd and create “uncommon value” in one of the most popular niches in our industry.

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Post + Photos by David Sanger

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With an ever-increasing supply of travel images, declining prices and a fixed amount of attention in the consumer universe, what are the best options for a travel photographer to create uncommon value?

Photobuyers can readily get many excellent travel images from a few quick internet searches and downloads from stock distributors. The secret then is to provide something that they cannot easily get, or find, and that they also want.

First, travel photographers must seek to understand the market. Who is licensing/using images, who is looking at images, what do they need? What images can they already find in ready supply? Editors, advertisers and the readers still look for a special angle, something they have not seen before. Even so, the advertising market is currently in decline, there is tremendous competition from low-cost micro, and readers/consumers are often disinclined to pay for content. They want something more.

It helps, then, to understand that value comes from the whole package a photographer provides, your content plus the context.

Following are eight suggestions for enhanced travel photography services. Four are more traditional and relate to content (what you provide). Four are about context (how you provide it).

Uncommon Subjects, Access, and Timeliness

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Point of view is a key element in an interesting travel image. If you have access to a location which is not open to everyday photographers, and if the subject matter is in demand, then you can produce an uncommon shot, a scarce resource.

This image, from the top of the South Tower of the Golden Gate Bridge, was taken while working on a project for the National Parks Association. Not only did I need permission from the Golden Gate Bridge Authority, I needed $2 million in liability insurance (something working photographers should have anyway). Logistically, it took months to co-ordinate available staff plus a fog-free sunny afternoon, plus give the advance notice they needed. All this was before 9/11. Security is even tighter now. The result was worthwhile, however: an uncommon selection of images of the bridge. One even sold for a movie poster, coming as a result of a Google Search.

business of photography, digital media, marketing, social media, stock photography, technique, travel photographySometimes photographers can gain access to locations or events by working regularly with destination tourist boards, properties or cruise lines. Members of professional travel journalist associations like SATW or TJG are often shown ‘behind the scenes’ or ‘sneak previews’ which can on occasion give an unusual shot. Sometimes it is simply the ingenuity of the photographer that leads to a place no-one else has thought to shoot from.

Access to photograph noteworthy people can also be very valuable. Los Angeles shooter Manuello Paganelli was able to parlay portraits of golfer Gary Player shot for a travel magazine into lucrative stock sales of the same images for a corporate jet campaign.

Being somewhere at the right time can be as valuable as being in right place. Timely images, immediately available on-line, whether of a newly-opened destination, a special event, or a historical occasion, can command a premium in the same manner as news images. The image on the left, of His Holiness the 14th Dalai Lama at the Western Wall of the Temple of Jerusalem, was taken during an ecumenical conference I covered in Jerusalem, and has been widely published since.

One point about newsworthy images is that they may have limited lifespan. Great shots of the Millenium New Year celebration from 2000 (or 2001) are no longer likely to sell.

Special Techniques

 business of photography, digital media, marketing, social media, stock photography, technique, travel photography Special abilities, techniques or expertise in photography can also distinguish your images and add extra value. Aerial images are a great example. Few people have the opportunity, or resources to hire a helicopter for aerial shots of a well-known destination. The above image was shot from a Coast Guard helicopter, again while working with the National Park Service.

Some photographers are well known for their technical specialties. The aerial imagery of Yann Arthus-Bertrand, geology and space images of Roger Ressmeyer and the wildlife photography of Frans Lanting will likely continue to maintain their value, because the techniques are uncommon and the photography expensive. But it isn’t only superstars who can benefit in this way. Any photographer who develops highly specialized technical expertise has a chance to produce unusual images which will stand out from the crowd.

Subject Matter Expertise + Customer Service

Photographers who specialize in a particular part of the world, or focus on a special social issue, or bring knowledge of subjects like wineecologyvolcanoes, or history to a project can offer more than just images to a photo buyer. There are times when only the photographer has the detailed background knowledge about how, where and when a photo was taken, which can help an editor in a story layout. Subject matter expertise can be invaluable in photo research, in knowing what to look for, in planning shoots, and in providing an attention to details.

Direct sales with quick turnaround, personal attention and having someone there to answer questions, all these help a photographer move beyond merely providing images to providing service to the end user.

Build Relationships

Dealing with a stock agency is an impersonal experience if online research, review and purchase is all mediated by a computer. On some sites even customer service is relegated to online chat. Being able to pick up the telephone and speak with the photographer can be very helpful for a photo buyer. Building relationships with photo editors, art directors, ad agencies and corporate clients can be an important part of a photographer’s business presence, again more with an eye to meeting customer needs than simply moving images.

With the expansion of social media building relationships with the end user is essential. Part of leveraging public interest in your work is to build a community of interest.

Custom Production

With the glut of stock imagery the economics of assignment work have become more appealing to photographers. Custom produced imagery can be far more focussed on the individual client’s needs. A travel photographer can offer an entire package: research, logistics, models, scouting, location permits, editing and post-processing. Not everyone (and certainly not microstock or pro-amateurs) can successfully organize a multiple-country international shoot in a foreign country. Co-ordinating it all is difficult and takes a particular skill set.

Diversify

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Travel photography has been particularly effected by oversupply. Everyone is keen to travel and take photographs and with crowdsourcing and microstock some of those images are finding their way into the marketplace. Another way to add value is to diversify and expand one’s offering beyond the travel genre.

On a recent trip to Buenos Aires I was able to work with an existing corporate client to photograph a factory just outside of town. Since I was already going to be in the area, there were no travel costs and this suddenly made the shoot affordable for the client. Piggybacking assignments in this way, means providing value outside one’s normal range of customers to other photo buyers who need images from a given location.

Shipping photography is another specialty where I have been able to combine corporate photography with travel photography. By shooting destination imagery on the off days while waiting for the arrival of a vessel, I am able to save the client money and also gather helpful stock images. Thinking outside the narrow box of travel industry clients can sometimes make the difference between profit and loss on an overseas shoot.

Develop Your own Voice

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Stock photography is providing individual images to an often unknown client for their own uses and needs. Editorial photography consists of working with an editor and art director to produce a visual story to match their brief. In both cases the photographer’s images are just a part of someone else’s project.

When a photographer develops his/her own voice and has something to say, then the message itself becomes the deliverable, rather than isolated, disembodied images. The story enhances the value and brings a more profound engagement.

My book on San Francisco Bay was such a project, conceived with an eye to engaging the readers to see clearly, perhaps for the first time, the natural wonder of the Bay which they so often might cross under, over or through without really seeing. From seeing comes caring, and from caring a willingness to act on behalf of the environment.

Photographers who move beyond single images to express their own perspective, such as Phil Borges advocating for TibetDavid DuChemin writing on photographic visionTrey Ratcliffe on HDR, or Eric Lafforgue on indigenous peoples, bring an additional dimension to their work. Any photographer, however, can begin in small ways to engage their own audience and speak more clearly through their work, either in blogs, online columns, magazine stories or sharing communities.

Taylor Davidson quipped “you can steal my photography but you can’t steal me”. When you develop your own voice, then it is you that become the “whole package”. Your point of view, perspective, insight and sensibility become a resource that cannot be duplicated, and so create uncommon value.

Ancillary Services

It is becoming an essential part of a photographer’s business plan to expand beyond the content itself and find additional opportunities for revenue and engagement. Ancillary services such as photo toursiphone apps, podcasts, calendarsfine art printsbookshow-to presentations, and public speaking can serve to educate, inspire and engage the end-user and draw him/her into a fuller experience. Online community sharing in particular provides the opportunity for many more to participate in the joy of travel, if only vicariously. The photographer then becomes a facilitator for people’s own dreams aspirations and creativity.

Be A Value Brand, Not Just A Name

Wed 09.28.2011

Of the endless stream of posts I see in my Twitter feed, Chris Brogan’s tweets always get my attention. A catchy title; a succinct commentary in 140 characters – I love his sharp, witty intellect, and his ability to present forward-thinking marketing concepts through personal narratives. In the following article, for instance, he gives an excellent insight into how being a successful brand is more than just being known for who you are. Rather, it is more important how you provide value to your targeted community. My favorite quote? “Don’t make the brand about you. Make it about the stories you can tell, adding your value and insight and passion, and then build on that. (This is where the business comes from, you know.)”

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Post By Chris Brogan

We’ve gone through a strange change, from people not realizing that they need to be their own brand, to people not realizing how being the brand impacts the way they do business. It’s interesting, really. Tom Peters was the first person I recall talking about it, back in the Alan Webber days of FastCompany (The Brand Called You). Back then, we were all cubicle farmers and beige employees of the cog-world (okay, not true, but that’s what it felt like). But now, we’re getting the opposite, where people have all the tools to make a brand and do so, but don’t really know how to leverage that brand into anything resembling a business. So, in some ways, there’s been a bit of a see-saw. We used to have people that would prosper by turning their wonderfulness into a personal brand.

We got there, kinda

In a way, lots of us have found our way to the tools that allow us to try and build a brand. I meet finance professionals with blogs. I know videobloggers who have a day job doing research for the research and quantification sector. We have access to the tools. Not everyone’s getting themselves to the promised land by blogging, but the tools are there. We CAN try and build personal brands and that’s something.

But what about business and personal branding?

The trick of being in a personal brand is that there’s a big difference between being known, being known for something, and also being able to turn that into business.

I’ve got a recognizable personal brand. It took years to build it. From that, it took years to figure out how best to make business from it. Because just being known doesn’t transform instantly into business.

I met Kathy Ireland a few months ago. She went from being a model into running a successful business with over $1 Billion in sales. Her speech at the Disney Social Media Moms event made no bones about the fact that it was hard going from being known for being beautiful into being respected for her business acumen. She told lots of stories about times when she and her business partner slept on the chairs in an airport to save money between business flights. The end point: no one just hands you money and business because they know you.

Your first takeaway: make sure you’re progressing from being known into being known for something you’ve done, and then work at finding a way to build a business from that. Your second takeaway: no one wants to hand you money just because people know who you are.

It’s still not about you

Being a personal brand isn’t all that useful to anyone else, if it’s just about you. It just doesn’t get people as fired up to be “supporters of Chris,” for instance. But instead, if you’re “human business workers,” all committed to improving relationship-minded sustainable human business practices, well, then I’ve got the sense that we’ll do a lot more.

As a personal brand, it’s really important to talk about everyone else as much as you can. It’s just too boring and unhelpful to tell everyone about you. It’s okay to “model the change you want to be,” or even let people learn from the lessons you’ve suffered through, but make sure you bring it back to them, and be helpful. It’s about the community you can touch and help succeed.

Be a value brand, not a name

I just had a great stay at the Renaissance Hotel in Las Vegas a few days back. Every single staffer treated me like I was a friend, and like they were so happy I was part of their experience. They gave me such value. They had advice for where I could go. They knew some ins and outs I needed to know. It was pure value for me as a frequent traveler.

I try to be a value brand. I try to give everyone so much more than what I ask for, that you think, “wow, I really DO want to help Chris promote Invisible People, because he’s given me lots of actionable business ideas over the years.” That’s my angle, and it’s working really damned well. Be a value.

Story, story, story

Connect folks to the story that brings them passion. I wrote about a charter school I visited, and learned tons about people’s take on education in the US (and abroad). That’s a story I could bring via my brand, but then let go so that it found the people who are passionate about such matters. See? I become the elbow of every “deal,” where in this case, stories of meanings become the deal.

You can do that. Don’t make the brand about you. Make it about the stories you can tell, adding your value and insight and passion, and then build on that. (This is where the business comes from, you know.)

Think community every day

As a personal brand, it’s not YOUR community, but it’s a loosely joined group of people who feel affinity for some of your ideas or for the space you represent. In a way, I’m saying, “make sure you realize that it’s never your community; it’s a place you’re privileged to access.” People who throw “MY” around before the word “community” are often surprised when that community doesn’t march in the same order that you intend. Surprise! The trick of this is that you have to recognize that you’re in service of the community, not the other way around. You’re possibly a leader, or at least someone that’s known, but that doesn’t make you the important part of the equation. With me?

Brands need refreshing

Never rest on your laurels. Madonna never did. She changed up her game every year. Soda pop companies tidy up their brand all the time. Now, think of a few brands that don’t do that, who are still in the past. Where are they?

The same is true with your brand. You. Lord knows I work on my brand that way. You think I’m the social media guy? I’m building myself to be the human business guy. I used to be the podcamp guy. I used to be just a blogger. I’m always working on the angle of the brand. Now, it won’t be there for you yet, because I’m talking about my planning, not my current situation. But that’s the very point I’m making. This isn’t accidental, or it isn’t for people who use brand as part of their success.

Brand is only one asset

A brand is an asset. But it’s only ONE asset. You can’t feed your family on a personal brand. You have to deliver something of value. You have to have a product or a service or something else where you make the real money. The brand is just the powerful emotional flag that people can rally around. If you don’t have more assets, or aren’t developing the other assets, well… enjoy that flag.

What else?

What else did I miss? What else can I help you with on this? How have you put this into service?

Oversaturated Market? Blame Me

Wed 09.21.2011

‘I, Zack Arias, am part of the oversaturated market,’ proclaims the Atlanta-based music photographer. Always a sharp shooter, Zack is one of the loudest and most vibrant movers and shakers in the new generation of our industry. Having met him before at industry trade shows, I’ve gotten to know him better recently when he was our guest on TWiT Photo and a participant in my Google+ Hangout on copyright and photo-sharing. My admiration of Zack and his phenomenal music and street portraiture has only increased after learning more about him – and I’ve constantly looked to exceptional and honest educators such as himself for inspiration in my own career as an educator and photographer. Here, Zack muses on the complaint that our market is oversaturated and pleads guilty to being a part of it. 

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Everyone wants to be a photographer these days.

Let me warn you now that this blog post is currently in it’s third state of revisions. It’s a real rambler. If you’re up for it, I’m up for it. More after the jump.

If you hang out on Twitter, Facebook, blogs, and the like enough you can “stumble upon” some trends without even trying to. Lately, I have seen a number of articles flying around about the over-saturation of the photography industry, the unsustainability of the microstock market, and the pros and cons of working for “free”. The “abuse” we photographers receive at the hands of our clients and totally absurd Craig’s List postings of people wanting work for free or photographers giving away the farm for nothing.

Here are a few of the articles that most people are talking about these days.

• Photo business guru John Harrington over at Black Star Rising talking about the 12 excuses for shooting for free. This article is the one that got me thinking about doing this blog post.

• Don Giannatti (Wizwow) has this article on shooting for free, and this article on getting experience. Great reads here.

• David Hobby (Strobist) about working for free. Another must read.

• Rob Haggart (A Photo Editor) about the unsustainability of the micro stock industry. Canary in the coal mine?

Let’s start with the “over saturated” market premise.

I, Zack Arias, am part of the oversaturated market. I am one of the many who are filling the waters of this industry. Every job I take is a job off of the table of another photographer. I am a working photographer in large part due to the prevalence of affordable DSLRs, the expense of film and development being removed from my upfront overhead, and the Internet.

I’ll be so bold to say that if you have entered this industry in the last 10 years, then you too are part of the oversaturation equation. If you are thinking about becoming a pro photographer, whether part time or full time, then you are oversaturating the market as well. I would say the “standard saturation” photographers are the ones who have been in the game, full time, without gaps, for more than 10 years.

Let’s break this thing down.

In the days of Kodachrome and dinosaurs, there were some pretty set rules of engagement and paths of entrance into the photography industry. You usually started by going to photography school or you started working in a lab. You had to get your feet wet somewhere and school and photo labs were a good place to get started. Once you were ready to move forward you started assisting working photographers. Many times you would have done this for free. I have assisted and interned for free many times and I have met countless photographers who started by schlepping bags and fetching coffee for nothing or next to nothing in pay. It’s what you did. It’s how you got to see how a “real” photographer worked. It was called… get this… “paying your dues.”

These days those paths aren’t so clearly defined. You can go to school via blogs, workshops, YouTube, and DVD’s. You can upload pictures to flickr and suddenly get a message from an art director wanting you to shoot a job. You can be a kid from Canada, travel the world, shoot some bands and end up shooting campaigns for a company you aren’t even old enough to buy their product. You can be inspired by your own wedding photographer, buy a camera, a fast lens, and rise to the top of your zip code within a year. You can go to Wal Mart, buy a cheap DSLR, shoot your friends and family, shoot their friends and families, put a blog together, and start a business. There are so many easy entry points into the market now. There is an abundance of inexpensive cameras, free learning portals, and free advertising routes that allows just about anyone with a camera to get out there and make a little or a lot of money with it.

The worst part about all of this is you don’t even have to be all that good of a photographer to get into the game. That really is the worst part about it all but hang out at enough photography water coolers and you’ll hear stories from “back in the day” about the same damn things. Being a crappy photographer with a profitable business is nothing new. There were just more up front costs to deal with back then. Now it’s just easier to be a crappy “sucksessful” photographer. Add insult to injury… You can be a fairly mediocre photographer these days and have a workshop teaching others how to be just as mediocre as you are. Meh. Whatever. It is what it is.

Add to all of this the deteriorating morale in the corporate workplace, the need of many to make an extra $100 here and there, unemployment, the recession, blah blah blah, and the fact that a lot of people find it a whole lot cooler to say “I’m a photographer” at social gatherings instead of saying “I’m a systems analyst at a healthcare company.” Bring this all together into the perfect shit storm of an industry filled to the gills with Joe and Jane Photographers trying to do something cool with their lives AND make some money doing it. I mean, Quicken and Quickbooks didn’t really oversaturate the accounting market did it? Maybe I’m wrong.

I’m right here part of it all. I’m part of the oversaturated market. You’re part of the oversaturated market. Don’t bitch and moan and complain about it because you’re in it with the rest of us.

What do we do with that information? Here we all are. Up to our necks in each other. We watch 10 leave because they can’t take the pressure and 20 more take their place. It all gets just a little tighter around here. The last thing in the world you need to do is complain about the situation… unless of course, you’ve been at this for 20 or more years. In that case, my apologies to you. I know you’re feeling the pressure of all of us new kids in the pool but here we are and it’s the only pool in town for us. Complaining about us isn’t making us leave and don’t think for a second that I didn’t just notice the water around me get a lot warmer.

Blah blah blah. Metaphor upon metaphor.

So it’s competitive. Guess what? Photography has always been competitive. I don’t know of any other time in this industry when it wasn’t competitive. The nice thing about the industry these days is it seems that most of us are now open to share our experiences with others. Gone are the days of everyone playing with their cards close to their chests. If you are still trying to stay in this industry with that sort of attitude, your days are numbered. It’s a real hippy love fest around here these days and we young punk kids ain’t got no time for your old ways of doing things.

Us young punk kids actually really need you to stick around. We need the long established pros to help us out. I know you want us out of your pool, but that isn’t happening any time soon. The better you can adapt the better you can survive. Part of adapting is now requiring you to kind of be a lifeguard even though you would probably just be as happy to watch us all drown.

So. Yeah. Over saturated. Your attitude should shift from “This sucks.” to “So what?” Big Deal. More at the party, dude!

How can I run a business will all these $500 wedding photographers in my town?

That’s the next thing we are going to look at. I’ll let you in on this… I’m all for $500 wedding photographers. For many different and sometimes conflicting reasons. Then we’ll look at the micro stock situation. Is it the canary in the coal mine? Then let’s have a conversation about what it all means at the end of the day and will the industry adjust and what will that look like?

The dog days are over
The dog days are done
The horses are coming
So you better run*

*I actually like to listen to the song above as “The dark days are over” and the horses coming aren’t here for destruction.

Confidence Theory – Do What You Love

Wed 09.14.2011

When I was starting out as a photographer, I would always look up to the leaders of our field – not just for their mad technical mastery and fine artistic eye. Many of them are also educators, giving frequent talks and seminars, helping others to gain invaluable insights into their work and process. I thought then, what gave them the confidence to speak to hundreds, sometimes even thousands? Over the years, after having enjoyed speaking at many seminars, I’ve come to the same realization that stand-up comedian Chris Hardwick – also actor, writer, musician, podcaster and founder of The Nerdist blog. To have confidence, you have to do what you love – and sharing insights into something I love – photography – comes easily to me. Don’t forget to check out Chris’ other sharp-witted articles.  

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Post by Chris Hardwick

I’ve been traveling an ungodly amount lately and when I’m unable to affix myself to the Webs I just drift off into random thought. Sometimes I think about things I have to do, other times I’ll re-live frustrating situations and get re-pissed about them and still other times I create fractious, hypothetical situations out of thin air wherein I mentally argue with made up people in public settings. Recently, however, I somehow fell into a constructive thought-river and started contemplating the concept of confidence. What is it REALLY? How do people get it? Why do some people crumble so easily while others persevere and succeed? Nothing original there, but I had an uncanny feeling that maybe there was more to it than what’s on the surface.

Then, while desperately trying to find a cab in another city, it hit me. Confidence in any scenario isn’t about trying to convince yourself, “Hey! I’m awesome-squared!” It’s about feeling like you have options. Whenever you have at least one other option in life, you feel relaxed, safe and cool because if the one thing doesn’t work out, you’re not going to die. Literally. It’s all that limbic system/survival mechanism shit. The brain is more like an onion than an apple. In other words, layers and layers of higher evolution still clamp down onto a primitive brain stem and the core of everything we do gets processed the way a lizard would.

Using the taxi example, if there were tons of them readily available I would take my time and casually grab whichever one happen to suit me. With only one or even an absence of them altogether, I feel desperate and needy. That one damned cab suddenly becomes very important because I believe it to be my only option for moving toward what I want. Next comes the “what if” game: What if I can’t find another one? What if I can’t get to where I’m going? The “what if” game is largely pointless and stems from panic & irrational fear, i.e., Lizard T. Brainworth. How many “what if” worst-case scenarios actually come true? My guess is almost none of them.

“Well how do I get options if they don’t seem apparent?” might be your next question if you bothered to read this far. It’s simple: Strive for excellence in something you love. When you commit yourself to a higher principle of excellence, that will always be at least one other option for you to fall back on. When you’re learning how to do something you enjoy and ultimately doing it well, that becomes mental currency that you can use as armor for a variety of seemingly unrelated situations, and therein lies the cool mind sorcery of it all: the options you create DO NOT have to relate to the situations in which you want to be confident. You don’t have to be an ace with the ladies to pick up more ladies—you can excel at something entirely different and still get the action you so richly deserve. The key is for you to feel safe and comfortable.

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For me, when I have a run of particularly good stand-up shows I feel like I have that as a cushion no matter how else I get rejected anywhere else.  The mere option of being able to do comedy fuels my confidence in virtually every other aspect of my life whether it be in professional or social situations.

Why is this important? Because the more confidence you are able to cram into your heart, the more you attract good stuff in life. It’s kind of a cold economy of Nature to reward those who don’t seem to need it. I think it stems from the idea that if an organism is strong, it’s worthy of passing on its genes. If said organism is desperate and needy, it must be flawed and its spreading must be limited.

So find a thing! Learn it, like it, live it. Give yourself the gift of options. Then bask in the warming cascade of feeling comfortable in your own skin and the good things that await you! Exclamation points!!!!

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